There used to be honor in keeping your legs closed to married men.
Not anymore. It’s 2018 and this is the year of the side chick.
2019 will be the year of the side chick too. Side chicks won all 2017. And 2016.
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I can’t be the only one tired of the TI and Tiny drama. How many times can one woman file for divorce? Tiny proves you can give a man love, commitment, threesomes and babies and he will still cheat.
It’s exhausting to watch the media tear TI apart every time Tiny files for divorce. Everyone roots for the victim but Tiny is no longer a victim, she’s a willing participant. A wraith and an apology is all it takes to make Tiny feel secure in her title as wife.
What’s in a title anyway?
In the latest side chick drama, Snoop has found himself in the news for his affair with known industry bustdown Celina Powell. Snoop has been with his wife Shante Broadus for 21 years and they are often cited as an example of longevity in black love and marriage. Shante has fought the good fight and stood by her man for 21 years and she’s still getting cheated on. Publicly. With a woman who sees more penis than urinals.
I give major side eye every time someone mentions these women fighting for their love and relationship. There is honor in being a wife and apparently there is honor in being a side chick too. Tiny got a new car from TI? Bernice Burgos did too.
There’s levels to this. It used to be girlfriend, fiancé, wife, with wife being the coveted title that women strived for. Now, there’s a new level, side chick. Side chicks get money, jewelry, cars, vacations, and babies too. The best part about being a side chick? You don’t get cheated on. He doesn’t want to leave his wife? Cool. It’s not about the relationship, it’s about the lifestyle. At least side chicks are realistic. Besides, who wants to marry a known cheater and get disrespected like that?
I’m not saying being a side chick is okay. Actually, maybe I am. What grown women decide to do with their vaginas is between them and the married men they bed. If Snoop hasn’t stopped cheating after 21 years of marriage, he never will. Is his wife a fool for staying? No. She built a life and family with that man and she wants to reap the benefits of marriage. And she does. On Snoop’s terms. She stays, that’s her problem. She’s grown.
With the divorce rate over 50%, maybe people should rethink this “forsake all others” thing because it doesn’t seem to be working. TI seems to be living his best life and it isn’t because he is at home happily married. When will people realize marriage isn’t what it used to be so it is time to start redefining marriage the way side chicks have redefined relationships. The only difference between Tiny and Bernice Burgos is Bernice doesn’t kid herself or sell herself short for a title.
Side chicks ain’t going no where. Somebody’s husband likes them too much.
These are behaviors on black men/women. Simple for the longest we failed to value ourselves & each other. Media propaganda! Music,TV, radio played part in this for decades. We are solely responsible for what’s being projected into society. Sex sells so men use women as sex objects. Oh but not to exclude the sista who’s been sexualizing herself for years too. So until we break the cycles of self harm this will continue.
*Monogamy is overrated. Sex is devalued in American culture. People unfortunately, prefer sex over loyalty. Maybe it’s time we changed the perspective of what sex actually establishes between a man and a woman. My belief is that sex is marriage. If society recognized this as fact, maybe the current divorce rate wouldn’t be so ridiculous. (*Almost forgot to mention that a man can have more than one woman, as long as he understands that “sex=marriage” and maintains that understanding for life with the women he chooses to “marry.”) With the shortage of black men due to mass-incarceration, homosexuality and every other oppressive agenda against them, why not embrace the ideal of polygamy? Just my thoughts…
Then why marry ? Just have sex with who u want when u want! A married man who cheats is greedy.! He wants his cake and ice cream and cookies and candy too. But if the wife goes and does it he the husband is destroyed. And she’s worse than a whore. gtfoh. What needs to happen is people need to be real about what they really want and make clear decisions and live with those decisions because ultimately it affects someone else’s life
No on the redefining marriage . The problem is that with every generation that hasn’t been shown what a real marriage looks like and what it’s supposed to be “tradition gets lost” it’s worse when they don’t have a belief system .. The sad part is there are side chicks with broke dudes and all they got is dick and babies . Morals and code were lost long ago and with each generation they try to change it to appease the flesh. I can’t be a side nothing. Are side chicks going to fight for rights too??
I was born in another country and raised in the states. I was fully aware that I should marry,so when it was time I went back to my country to find a husband. I refuse to deal with the major issues that surround the African American Community. We have made marriage an unnatural act. I prefer to go to a place where marriage is still respected and your husband is a real man 7 years later! no regrets! we have our issues, but we make a good match. sadly, my African American friends are still out there in and out of relationships. Everything is based upon sexual pleasure and they cry about men not wanting to play their roles. Marriage is a beautiful thing,but not to a society that no longer values it.
Interesting article.