When women said we wanted gender equality, this isn’t what we were talking about.
We were thinking equal pay.
Voting rights.
Birth control.
Never in a million years did women think they would be paying alimony to men, especially men who are self-sufficient. This isn’t the gender equality we fought for, this is how men interpreted it.
In today’s WTF news, Jennifer Hudson is still fighting her former fiancé, and dad to her son, over finances. In addition to paying child support, he’s also requested spousal support to pay for living expenses. He’s pulled a “Kendu” (Mary J. Blige reference) but the gag is, they were never married.
Should a woman support a man she’s never married? I bet Jennifer Hudson thought if she never married him, she would never have to pay spousal support. She probably never married him because she understood his character and didn’t want to chance having to support him.
Relationships are scary. The rules of engagement have changed because social norms have shifted. Women are out-earning men and demanding more respect, which has caused a rift in gender expectations. With these changes have come a liability, especially when marriage and/or babies are involved.
Jennifer Hudson (and Mary J. Blige) have taught women a valuable lesson in dating and the risks that come with long term commitments of any sort. I don’t really care what men have to say here. It’s as though they enjoy watching women beaten up by a system they know is unfair. I can’t be the only one tired of the Men have been dealing with this for years spiel. So what? Either women need to challenge and change these laws or women need to become more educated, or both.
I, for one, hope Jennifer doesn’t have to pay this man a penny more than the child support she pays him. Shame on him.
So it would be ok if he had to pay her allimony??? Cant pick what part of equality you want. Ijs
Ain’t no fun when the rabbit got the gun, eh…
I am married to Carlise Guy, daughter of Buddy Guy, the Grammy award winning blues singer. They ,prior to divorce proceedings,robbed my home of all of my furniture and put my house in a fraudulent Chicago land trust and title company scheme. Carlise gave her father 100% beneficial interest and he had me evicted prior to a division of marital assets determination, a wore me down through financial attrition, in dicovery. She and I paid cash for that house after we were married. She asked me to get married then treated me like a serf. #MeToo my ass. Can someone help me counter this fraud. karljcook@yahoo.com
Explain in what world where this would be cool to happen to anybody (male or female). No one should be indebted to a former relationship nor their household nor should be providing finances unless they choose. Simply put, you are an adult, affording your bills and lifestyle is your responsibility. If you choose to leave and a child is with the custodial parent… You are responsible for ensuring that child (& only that child) is cared for. Moreso, you are responsible for maintaining an uninterrupted relationship with your child.
“We want to be treated exactly like men” *women get treated exactly like men do* “no not like that!” Bitch stfu with we want equality & then when u get it u complain about it. U cant have the perks without earning them/taking the shit that comes along with those perks so either accept it like the men that u want to be equal to do or shut the fuck up about it
In the manner you have written your thoughts is disgusting but I do agree with you. Women have fought for equal rights and we don’t want to cherry pick on what parts of it we want. The problem with your ignorant comment and referring to women as bitches is that in your foul mouth ways you didn’t stop to read that the two were NEVER Married. You can’t be granted spousal support if you aren’t spouses. She isn’t fighting not to pay child support because he has custody of their son, she is fighting not to pay for something that he shouldn’t be granted because they were never married.
Sorry, Ladies, but you can’t cherry-pick the things you want! Men go through B.S. too. Beyond that, men of color have added B.S. to put up with.